Look at our spiralling benefits bill and tell me that we can go on like this

My friend’s son went to the doctor a year ago complaining of anxiety and depression after a break up, and was immediately signed off from work. A year later he’s still at home, becoming more and more reclusive with each day that goes by. Rather than see the doctor as compassionate, my friend despises her and blames her for her able-bodied, vital son wasting his life away at home. All of us know that when our children beg not to go to school because of something that has upset them, be it with a teacher or a friend, the worst thing we can do is allow them to hide. Could the same apply in some cases here?